Absent fathers.

Many of us are blessed and grateful to have men/ husbands/ boyfriends who are in the delivery room when their babies are born.

Some are also blessed to have fathers who live with the family and come home after work.

In that same blessing can be the curse of present but absent minded fathers.

These are men who are at home but only think or behave as if their job is done once they are working and come home to sit on a couch. They do not educate their children. They do not seek opportunities to listen attentively to their children. They fail to lead and teach them spiritual in things on a consistent (voluntary) basis. And they rarely partake in family games or dinners around a table. They are simply there. Like the couch is there. They are present. However, the phone, tv, social media, side Hussle or other things and people have their time and hearts– their undivided attention.

When asked to help in the daily care for the children, these particular men say things like:-

🙃I don’t know how to change diapers so you do it.

🙃Women have a natural intuition to raise and care for children, men don’t.

🙃I make the money so you care for the baby.

🙃You chose to bring the children to a play date, so you give them a shower and put them to bed.

🙃I didn’t have a dad to show me what to do but I am in the house right!

For the women/mothers/ caretakers who live with present but absent fathers– my encouragement to you is continue doing the best you can! Stay connected to God and resist the urge to say Suck you!

Focus on whatever good little and far and few they may be– and surround your children with men who will be great fatherly figures. 😊😊😊