My husband is not the only one

To be inconsistent with helping around the house and being a consistent, hands on dad.

I asked Deon to take Timothy to his dentist appointment and his reply was “I don’t know where the place is”…

I was sort of in disbelief at the dumb and irresponsible excuse. Surely he could come up with something better! I was hoping that he would say that we all go since he was home until 3 pm and the appointment was for 10 am. I reminded my husband that I sent him the appointment information and just how easily he finds whatever he wants since the phone lives in his hands 🙄😂he can find the address to the dentist!

I proceeded to shower with my Elemis cool down body wash to calm myself and rub off the tiredness having spent the evening at Kalahari indoor water Park with Timothy and some friends. Breathe. Pray. Praise.

When I was finished showering, Deon was still in bed. He did not wake Timothy to help get him ready?!? Haha not shocking but I still said it out loud and added ‘how unfortunate!’

I dressed myself then quickly got Timothy ready so that we could leave home by 9:30 am. And by 9:31 am we were pulling out from our garage headed to the dentist.

I did it. I always do it and I know that I can do bad all by myself 🫰🏾😅 but I don’t want to! I did not purposely put myself in a situation to be a single mom to raise a child alone! (And I say that because I know some women who did as is their choice). PARENTING IS HARD! I know that I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me!! I don’t want to do all the parenting and what is required everyday all by myself! And I refuse when I have a capable father and husband LIVING WITH US! And the Bible says that I don’t need to do it all, all the time! And thankfully, I don’t. Deon does help and prepare and assist , however, he did not this morning and that was not okay. 🙃

I have listened to coworkers who are married, share how their husbands have no idea how to get the car seat out of the car, but they can do so all the while carrying all the bags and the toddler!! Shameful! Sad! Unfortunate!! Shame on the men who refuse to simply be MEN! Be devoted and strong, leading and receiving the help from his wife as they train their children up TOGETHER!! Shame on the men who refuse to LEARN how to be a dad!!

It is a new year. It is our 7th year as parents and I am learning to keep praising and doing what I CAN do, teach what I can to Timothy and not neglect me! To REST ! And to Rest in God! God is in control of everything! (So why doesn’t He control these trifling men🙄😂🤣). God allows us all to have free will. Free will to help and serve each other for a happy and harmonious life— and free will to do the opposite. Just the same, I have the free will to mother the best I can from a good and peaceful place, not concerned about how much help I receive on a daily basis. I have the freewill to serve well and to REST!

I know that my husband ain’t the only one will probably make a hilarious book 😅 my encouragement to wives with husbands like mines- present but not always helpful with everything as we would like –sole breadwinner or NOT— take care of YOURsELF darling 🥰 and Fret Not!